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Ep. 16: The Lifecycle of An Abandoned Boundary; And How To Get Out Of It

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In episode 16 of the Boundaries Unleashed podcast, we dive into the intricacies of the Abandoned Boundary Cycle (ABC) and explore how to break free from its grip. Setting healthy boundaries requires a solid foundation of unconditional self-love, awareness of our needs, effective communication skills, and resilience. When we lack these elements, we often find ourselves stuck in people-pleasing behaviors, unable to establish boundaries effectively.

The ABC consists of four distinct phases: Activation, Hope, Abandonment, and Resignation. We experience a boundary breach, hope for change through subtle hints or gestures, eventually abandon our needs to avoid conflict or criticism, and finally resign ourselves to the situation. Breaking this cycle demands intentional pattern interruption—whether through honest self-assessment, seeking support from friends or mentors, or acquiring new communication skills. By fostering self-love and nurturing our needs, we can empower ourselves to establish healthy boundaries and embrace a reality that aligns with our values. If you're struggling with boundary setting, don't hesitate to reach out and start a conversation—it could be the first step towards a transformative change.

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